If you are not familiar with Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages (how we best express and receive love), here is a list of them, with my comments after each.
I was wondering, can you help me figure out which one of the five is my love language?
1. Physical touch: The last time Dave gave me a shoulder massage, I got annoyed and asked him to quit.
2. Gifts: This may be my secondary love language, as I've already purchased a Valentines' gift (3 weeks early) for Dave. However, I may have nibbled at it a bit.
3. Quality time: Do movies count?
4. Acts of service: What, your husband doesn't do the dishes?
5. Words of affirmation: Like when readers comment on my blog posts and Facebook status? Like when they “like” me? Like if Dave says something beyond “I love you,” such as “You’re a great mom” or “I really like the subtle nutmeg flavor you added to these muffins” or “thanks for being a wonderful wife” or “you look hot in that dress?” And if no one makes the effort to give me a thumbs up on my Moroccan lentil soup or haircut I get depressed and mutter “the heck with the world and I hate everybody," and then I consider packing my bags and going on a road and boat trip to Baffin Island, where there is likely no internet and no email and no possibility that I’ll open my inbox to find no compliments and no facebook notifications!!!!!!
Tell me, shrink. Which might my love language be?
Which is yours?
(On a more serious note, I'm finding that the more I grow as a person--the more I allow God to teach me to love more fully-- I am becoming "multi-lingual" in regard to the love languages. I'm a much better giver. I make it a point to hug and kiss my kids several times per day. I seek out ways to spend quality time with them. And I realize that the only words of affirmation I really need are from God. "...A person with a changed heart seeks praise from God, not from people." Romans 2:20 NLT)